Who am I, you ask?
I am made of All the people I’ve encountered and all the things I’ve experienced. Inside, I hold the laughter of my friends and family. The arguments and chattering of my siblings and the warmth from kind strangers. Inside, there are stitching from cracked hearts, bitter words from heated arguments, music and hobbies that get me through and emotions I cannot convey. I am made from all these people and moments. That’s who I am. And yes, I made it through and so did you!
Despite all this, there are some things I wish I knew when I was younger. Maybe, just maybe they would have made things a little bit easier to cope with.
Confidence is key, In everything! Remember that shy kid in class afraid to ask questions, interact with others in class or give independent thoughts on something? I do! That girl was me. I was so afraid of what people would think, if what I was about to say was valid or worth the effort. I carried this insecurity all through high school and in life choices only to come and realize that I was really missing out. Unhealthy believes about ourselves, others and the world is lethal. It will drain your mental strength, trust me it’s not a good experience. “Courage is the most important of all virtues because without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently” Maya Angelou
Do not look for a relationship to make you happy. Yes, being in a relationship is something beautiful, I must admit. But commit yourself to a relationship for the right reasons. Happiness should come from within. You can’t possibly hold someone else accountable for your happiness.
Family matters, but they can be wrong too. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t listen to the advice given by parents, guardians and siblings. They love and care for you, holding nothing but good intentions at heart. When their expectations and yours come into conflict, stay true to your path. Acknowledge your purpose and pursue it! At the same time, don’t be rebellious. Share your thoughts, they might not agree with you but to the very least they’ll support you through.
Saying No isn’t selfish. You need to learn how and when to say no. One lesson I borrowed from my dad is to always go with your gut filling. Have your standards and abide by them. If you do not want to do something, do not feel pressured simply because everyone is doing it. Say NO and stick by it. Have independent choices.
Don’t worry about pleasing everyone. Not everyone will like you, It’s impossible!
There’s a huge difference between genuine and convenient friendships.
It’s important to have clear distinction between the two. Friends will either build you or destroy you. You are as good as the people you surround yourself with. Be careful with this one!
Being yourself shouldn’t be an excuse to stop working on yourself.
It’s important to be your own person, but at the same time remain humble. Strive to be the better version of yourself every single day! Don’t settle as a half-baked human, please!
Your life will not go exactly as planned and it will be for the better.
Don’t beat yourself up when you fail, it’s all a part of your growth journey. Things will turn out eventually. Just don’t give up.
Take care of yourself. Work out, eat well, drink water and get enough sleep. Your health is an extension of your self image. Come on! Get abs now, it’s easier when young. To fitness, Yes?
Be comfortable with imperfection.
Those are some of the few things I wish I knew when I was younger. An experience that I’ll definitely share with my kids once I cross that bridge.
What about you?? What are some of the life experiences that have molded you to be the awesome human that you are right now? Come on! Let’s hear it 🙂